Created to be his help meet

(God has laid this post on my heart for the past 2 months.  I started it before I left for Zambia and it was supposed to be part of a "series." But while I was there I always got distracted writing about other things. Lol. So here it is, it's finally done.)

“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”  Genesis 2:18

   Some women are called to singleness, but for most of us God has marriage in our future, and has personally hand picked the right man for us. However, something we often forget is He has also hand picked us for that man, knowing that no other lady would be right for him. 

  Ladies, if a man was evaluating us right now to see if we would make a good wife, would we pass the test? If a man was secretly checking up on us and reading everything we wrote on the internet, talking to friends and family, and watching us to see what we're like, would he approve of what he saw and read? How is our life and walk with the Lord reflecting who we are on the inside? 

  Instead of spending all our time day dreaming about our prince, let us evaluate ourselves to see if we are ready for marriage. We were created to be a help meet to our husband. That means we are to come alongside him in partnership, support and encouragement. To be a helper to him. Are we ready for that? Are we ready to take on all the responsibilities of running a household?  Are we suitable material for a wife?Are we guiding our actions and words to prepare us for marriage and to honor our husbands?? Are we women prepared for marriage or are we just overgrown little girls wanting to be married? 

"For who can find a virtuous wife? Her price is far above rubies." Proverbs 31:1 

   Ladies, Godly men seek Godly and virtuous women for their wives so it is important that we are such before we ever think about entering into a relationship. I once heard someone say "marriage does not change a person, but that person can change their marriage." Whether for the good of the marriage or not is up to us. If we want to be a good wife and have a strong marriage, it is important that we start now while we are both young and are not in a relationship, because being a good wife does not start at the alter, it starts years beforehand as we prepare for and head towards that ultimate goal. How we conduct ourselves as single women will be carried into marriage, so it is vital that we work on becoming a Proverbs 31 woman right now. If we answer any of the above questions in a negative sense, then we are not ready for marriage. Let us be studying what God says about being a Godly wife and work on making ourselves such a woman. Eric and Leslie Ludy have some great books out about what Godly relationships should look like, and Debi Pearl has a highly recommended book for women, called Preparing to be a help meet. These are all highly recommended books to read before we enter into a relationship.

   If we seek now to honor our future husbands in all our thoughts, words and actions, when he finally wins our heart he will be blessed beyond measure with this gift that we give him: the gift of our purity and virtue. Whoever we marry will be our best friend for life. We need to ensure that we are the kind of woman that will also be a best friend to that man. A woman who will bless him and stand by him all the days of our lives. The kind of woman he has searched for and prayed for for years and the wife that he wants us to be and God has called us to be.  

Here's a link to a really sweet song about being faithful to your future spouse, Faithfully by Eric and Leslie Ludy: (Turn my music off at the bottom of page)

"For the vision is yet for an appointed time and...it will not deceive or disappoint. Though it tarry,wait for it,because it will surely come; 
 it will not be behindhand on its appointed day."

Habakkuk 2:3

"For the glory of God!"